“Does the church match up to Jesus? Do the church and Jesus have equal rights?”
Feminism simply means the fight for women’s rights based on the ground of sex, social, economic and political equality. This definition appears to be straightforward but within a period of time, it has taken different turns. The concept of feminism is no longer aligned with the purpose God has for women and this is where I have a problem. Yet, because I do not believe in this concept does not mean I have the power to judge anyone.
The first time I heard the word ‘Feminism’ was from someone I grew up to admire, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. I was all ready to ride piggy back with her by claiming I was a feminist. Even though, I had no idea what the word meant. The word sounded really cool and I believed whatever Chimamanda had to say was the entire truth. At this point in my life, I was just starting to know God and His word. I had only just given my life to Christ and from past experiences, I supported the idea that women needed to be an authority in their own way. Feminism came to be because women saw the need to protect themselves from the flesh of men (inequality, domestic violence, and all sorts). Thus, making women an authority of their own.
“Feminism does not have to mean that you complain about men or degrade them to make a point about how important women are”
Nicole (Women Against Feminism).
For many years, all I ever did was try to fit into a social group or peer group. But the truth is, I have been structured very different from what people often call normal or abnormal. And, I have learned to embrace it. I do not fit into the box either do I fit outside the box. As the world evolved so did we. With the evolution comes the signs of times, which we have taking pleasure in giving purpose. To further debunk some ideas of these concepts that are non-aligned with God’s intention for the woman or wife, here is my basis for argument:
“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything…
so ought men to love their wives as their own body.”
SINGLEHOOD VS WIFEHOOD:
I have often heard women say, “Why do I have to submit myself to my husband? I am my own person.” But the question I ask myself is: “why did you get married to a man, whose purpose is not aligned with yours? Whose purpose can you not cherish? The idea of submitting to a man whom God has put in your life as a leader is not an insult, it does not reduce you neither does it counter your power as a woman.
It is a good thing to fight against domestic violence, abuse among the numeral dangers, women are vulnerable to. I have seen, heard and read about abusive relationships. But, at the end of the day, they are all as a result of getting into wrong relationships, loving the wrong person and just walking according to the flesh.
When you are a single woman, you are your own leader. Your future and purpose are independent. Yet, when you are a married woman, you have become one with another. You are to support your husband and your husband is to be your leader (Ephesians 5:24). This does not make you insignificant, nor should it paralyze your purpose. It is to improve you as a woman and make you serve God better. In this case, your individual purpose should be aligned with your partner, the same way two become one. A man who respects Jesus will love his wife just as Jesus did love the church. It is not right to feel insecure or deduced to a woman without vision, which is why it is very important you marry right.
For in the sight of God we are same. Just as man has authority, so does the woman.
“Also, though the woman was made from man, the man is born from woman”
(1 Corinthians 11:12).
Despite being same, it is highly important that a wife submits (respects and honors) herself to her husband. To clarify any misconception of my previous statement: a wife is to submit to her husband while a single lady or woman, has God alone to submit to. As a single woman, dominate, fulfill a purpose, own who you are and love yourself. But as a married woman, submit and dominate alongside your husband. Thus, being same does not mean, absorbing the characteristics of another. It simply means to be equally loved and acceptable by God.
This I find very attractive. It is very important that older women teach the younger women how to live a life of purpose, how to make the best of life. Younger women should be thought how to work hard, be selfless, be confident and love themselves. This world is theirs as much as it is the men’s. Young women should be motivated and empowered to be the best versions of themselves.
Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives”
I love Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and every feminist out there. I respect them for empowering women all over the world. But, it is very important that it is aligned with God’s intentions for us as women.
“Withhold not good from them to whom it is due when it is in the power of your hand to do good”
In the law of sowing and reaping according to the bible, there is no superior sex. Every planter that sow his or her seeds in a good soil and takes proper care of it; every individual that works hard deserves the fruits of his or her labor.
In this generation, where people try to find consolation in things that were never intended to give freedom, I wonder how long women will keep fighting against what they can do and men cannot do. As much as I am all for protecting one’s self from the dangers, abuse and criticism received, it is important women find liberation via submission.
Everyone deserves a platform but the truth owns the platform. And although I am not entirely against Feminism, I will not call myself a feminist.