Ali & Mena.

“Hey, I am sorry, we should not do this anymore. I love you so much, heaven knows. I need to take care of myself and health. I will always love you but I cannot do this anymore” she said and turned her back to walk away. Ali pulled her back with her right palm into a warm embrace that lingered. Tears spilled from her eyes. Mena removed his hands that wrapped her neck. She looked him in the eyes with a grin. Ali tried to put his hand on her face, she avoided it and walked away from him. She could not bear another second to see the sadness on his face. Ali stood on the pavement few inches from the Kentucky Fried Chicken at Ogba, Lagos State. Till the rain began to drizzle.

Mena was light-skinned, thick and very pretty. She was one to avoid conversations and keep to herself. At birth, the doctors discovered she had Situs Inversus. As she grew older, she became depressed. Mena carried with her a mindset that she was different and the burdens were hers to bear. From the onset, she shuffled schools and hospitals thereby affecting her relationships. But, she is able to pull through every day wearing a fake smile and keeping her disorders a secret. One of the many reasons why she did not tell her closest friends about it was because she wanted to forget it all.

Mena grew up in a Christian family and has a personal relationship with God. Despite being a person of faith, the thoughts of committing suicide had crossed her mind.

June 13th, 2015, depressed, she felt bad that she could not stop herself from feeling unhappy. So, she walked into the kitchen to grab a long sharp kitchen knife from the cabinet. Holding on to the black handle, Mena turned the pointed tip to her stomach. It felt right to end her life at that moment until she heard the voice of God.

After the long holiday, she went back to school with her feelings juxtaposed. School is another avenue for socializing and she despised it. Till she got in contact with an old friend from her childhood Ali.

By September 2015, they were dating. Mena found happiness in talking with Ali every day and chatting. Ali sent her cute messages and poems. For the first time in a long while, she forgot her disorders. Her friends noticed a different aura seeping from her. But, she never mentioned him to them. The relationship was like her secret drug and she did not want to feel bad.

It was a Thursday night. Mena felt tired and wanted to go to bed. She picked up her phone to send a good night message to Ali. After she sent the message, she checked his status update on Blackberry Messenger. Only, to see the picture of a gift he bought another for her birthday whereas he forgot about hers.

“I knew it was impossible for him to want an actual relationship. Why did I fool myself into believing something could actually work out”? She picked her phone and broke up with him over a text. Then, she felt better. The following morning, she forgot about it. Mena went on with her day as though nothing had happened. Until she opened Blackberry Messenger on her phone. She saw the message and could not figure out why she’d broken up with him. Her mood was still over the place.

A day later, Ali called her. She was alone in her room and gloomy that day. So, when Ali asked her why she ended the relationship? Mena broke down in tears. She cried without an explanation hoping Ali would guess something was wrong. Instead, Ali said, “it was cool if that was what she wanted”. When Ali ended the call, she smashed the phone on the bed. And went straight to her friend’s room. Throughout the rest of the day, she laughed and ate as she tried to forget Ali.

Two years later, Mena returned home for the Christmas holiday. Everything seemed to be going well on the 31st January 2017 until Mena could no longer move any part of her body. Whenever she tried to move from one side to the other, her stomach and chest tightened. In tears, she stretched her hand to pick up her phone and called her brother. Roland ran to her side and rushed her to the hospital that night. Mena stayed in the hospital for two weeks. It was during this period of time that she finally opened up about her mood swings to her parents. The doctor prescribed anti-depressants for her.

At age of nineteen, she felt relieved that she did not have to fight her battles alone. Deep inside, she knew she had lost a part of her. So, she tried reached out to Ali, to work things out. Talking to him again gave her butterflies. She wanted to tell him about her health. And what caused the instability in their relationship. All that she had been through. But, she kept to herself because their relationship was better. They got closer than before. Mena was on the path of healing and she felt like the past did not matter.

One day, they got talking after she returned to school. Then out of the blues Ali interjected: “I have a girlfriend”. The words crippled her heart. She wondered why he never mentioned it in the first place. “Why did he have to carry me along? Why didn’t he mention it in the first place?” she thought to herself. This time a little louder, she asked: “why are you telling me now, Ali”? “It was a mistake”, he responded.

Like that, Mena went into the bottomless pit again. She ended the call and let her mind slip into hallucinations. And she kept telling herself love was not meant for her. Throughout the night, she wailed in silence because her roommate was asleep. Mena stopped taking her pills and went on with life; including her relationship with Ali. She acted like everything was okay. Held on to a relationship she already knew was over.

Amidst, all she went through, Mena stayed focused in school. Whenever she avoided talking to Ali, a message from him would pop up. He was like a disease that had no cure. They continued talking. Then came this conversation:

Ali: Should I break up with her?

Mena: That depends on you. Do it for yourself. *Or how about we run away?* 🙂

Mena: You know what, if you cannot make up your mind, stop playing with my emotions and get away from me.

Ali: I am sorry.

Mena: I forgive you.

That was their last conversation. Until, 18th, July 2017, when they finally met at Kentucky Fried Chicken. Mena had grown and learned a lot during their time apart. She had the courage to go back to God, take her medication and stay sane. With the help of a Christian counselor, she realized how messed up her life was and the need to love herself first. “I, too, deserve love” were the words she meditated on every day. This time when they met, she’d made up her mind to cut him off for good. It was not easy. But, she knew she had to find her way back to God.

After turning her back on Ali for the last time, she got into the car and cried. She loved him like forever. To ease the pain, she played audio sessions sent to her by her counselor. It talked about the following:

The first relationship, any Christian should have is with God.

Love yourself first to love others.

Never take infatuation as God-kind of love.

About healing, the spirit will be willing but the flesh will be weak.

Your joy can only be in the presence of God.

There is a time to heal and a time to love.

As she listened, she felt a conviction in her heart that she had made the right decision. Despite fighting herself for a long time, she felt at peace.

When she got home, she took the bottle of pills and Holy Bible from her bedside table. She laid her back on the bed, took some pills and swallowed it. Then she picked up her Bible to read. Mena felt a sharp pain in her chest and when she tried to get up, it hooked her the way it had done before. Before she could move, she slumped on the bed and that was her last moment on earth. Mena died with a soft smile on her face and her Bible roughly placed on her chest.

Days later, Ali heard the news from one of Mena’s best friends. It sent ripples through his vein. He felt sorry for the way he treated her while she was alive. Blamed himself for not knowing all she went through. He browsed through their chats and messages. Ali felt sorry for his sin. And this sad event brought him to His knees before God. When he heard everything that had happened from her friend and sister, he knew he had to start afresh with God. What no one knew about Ali was that he also dealt with depression.

He ended the relationship with his girlfriend to focus on God and start afresh. He knew he could not afford to make the same mistake twice. Ali was not going to be a fool anymore.

7 Replies to “Ali & Mena.”

  1. Wow…. How could she have died?
    It’s a really nice story though, I love the counselor’s part and advice.
    God bless you with more wisdom B

    1. Amen and thank you Deji. She died because her father in heaven called her home.

  2. The moral of the message is “God’s love in our lives” and that was perfectly placed for all of us readers. Good stuff

    1. Thank you 🙂

  3. Nice write up.. A lot of soul has been lost to depression, thank God her counsellor gave her the right advice. Ali will never forget Mena for the rest of his life and her death brought him closer to God. More grease.

  4. Well-done

    1. Thank you Brenda

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